Founded in 2011 in response to the need for a bereavement support program specifically for survivors of homicide by Christopher Ducharme, who is himself bereaved by homicide, The BC Victims of Homicide (BCVOH) is an initiative of the BC Bereavement Helpline that aims to provide support and strength to the families and friends of individuals who have survived the loss of a loved one by homicide. BCVOH networks with various government and non-government organizations to offer support to relatives and friends of homicide victims in the form of safe, unique 8-week guided support groups, training programs, grief retreats, and more across the province. Through our Helpline we also offer information and resources for caregivers helping victims of homicide.
Losing a loved one to homicide, whether it is a child, a spouse, a parent, a sibling, a close friend, a co-worker, or an acquaintance, is an extremely difficult experience for anyone to endure. Family members, friends, and the community at large are harmed when a murder is committed. If not well supported, those who experience loss through homicide may become another casualty of crime. Through our Homicide Grief Support Groups and our Traumatic Loss Facilitator Training [link to Programs/Training & Education/Traumatic Loss Facilitator Training], BC Victims of Homicide is helping those who have lost a loved one by homicide, as well as building capacity for others to offer their own Homicide Grief Support group in their community.
Homicide Grief Support Groups
Homicide is deliberately caused by another human being's actions, and results in the unnatural death of a loved one. The uniqueness of this type of death may bring about feelings such as overwhelming sadness, anger, vulnerability, lack of desire to do anything, anxiousness, irritability, inability to concentrate, numbness, confusion, sleeplessness and forgetfulness. By sharing and listening to others who have experienced a similar loss, survivors are able to connect with others who understand and have their feelings validated. Additionally, we help support group attendees in dealing with the feelings that arise when working with a police unit or the media.
Our eight-week support groups meet once a week for two hours and may include up to ten participants. Our trained facilitators are committed to providing:
- A safe, non-judgmental, compassionate environment with time for restorative sharing of stories and insights
- Essential grief and mourning survival tools to help survivors in their daily lives
- Practical support and information as well as valuable community connections
- A respectful space for honouring the life of the person who has died
The BC Bereavement Helpline acknowledges the financial assistance of the Province of British Columbia.
Upcoming Homicide Grief Support Groups
Dates: Tuesday evenings, September 17 - November 5, 2019
Time: 6:30 - 8:30pm
Location: Valley View Funeral Home, 14644 72 Ave, Surrey, BC V3S 2E7
No cost to attend. Email Marlyn at firstname.lastname@example.org to register or for more information.
Info Session - Homicide Grief Support Group designed for the Sikh Community
Info Session for a new homicide grief support group starting in September designed with the Sikh community in mind. Facilitators Danny and Dawn Sandhu will talk about their experience of attending a homicide support group after their 17 year old son, Jaylen, was murdered five years ago. They will be there to answer your questions and support you in making that difficult decision about attending a support group.
Date: Rescheduled for Tuesday, August 27
Location: Gurdwara Dukh Nivaran SahibTemple at 152nd & 68th Ave, Surrey
Email Marlyn at email@example.com to register or for more information.
Surrey - Homicide Grief Support Group Designed for Sikh Community in Mind
Dates: September 19 - November 7, 2019
Time: evening time, to be confirmed
Location: Gurdwara Dukh Nivaran Sahib Temple on 152nd & 68th St. in Surrey
Contact: Email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 604-816-2144
Prince Rupert - Homicide, Suicide, Substance Use or other traumatic death
Dates: September - to be confirmed
Time: Eight weekday evenings for 2 hours, confirming
Location: Prince Rupert, exact TBD
Contact: Email email@example.com or call 250-627-7779
Dates: October 9 to November 28
Time: Eight Wednesday evenings for 2 hours, 6:00 - 8:00 PM
Location: Vancouver (exact location provided upon registration)
Cost: $120 (This helps us cover the cost of room rental and expenses. Subsidies are available.)
Registration: To ensure you don't miss a spot, please contact us to put your name on our waitlist.
Facilitators: Maja Futrell Frühling and Jessica Lowe
Maja is a registered Therapeutic Counselor with the Association of Cooperative Counseling Therapists of Canada and also holds a diploma in Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy and Transpersonal Therapeutic counseling. She has her own practice, Settling Steps Counseling with a special focus on grief and loss. Maja also is a co-facilitator for the BCBH suicide grief support groups.
Jessica is the Program Manager for the BC Bereavement Helpline and brings lived experience to her facilitation having lost her older 19 year old sister to homicide. This will be Jessica's third year as a co-facilitator for BCBH.
To register for the support group please call BCBH at 604-738-9950 or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Participants from a homicide support group held at Valley View Funeral Home discuss their experiences with homicide loss, group support, and honouring their loved ones.
Testimonials from Participants
“We are not alone in our loss. Our stories are so different, but our pain and tears were the same”
“I felt very secure in telling my story and sharing more intimate details in a Homicide Support.”
“This group defined my grief and what to do to alleviate it.”
“I would recommend this group to others because I learned how others felt and how they handle their pain and I did not feel so alone.”
“I really enjoyed it and am a little sad that it’s over. I do feel more equipped to take care of myself now.”
“I felt it was valuable for all of us to learn each other’s stories and how each person handles their pain. The classes were well put together and I found that I learned more regarding P.T.S.D. and how to handle my stress better.”
“I would absolutely refer this group to others. Grief is huge and a group is bigger.”
“They [the facilitators] both came with similar life-altering traumatic experiences. It showed me that they have come this far and made it.”